Book Review: Helping Me Help Myself


 
After waking up sore and bruised on January 1, 2006, Beth Lisick made one resolution: to learn better how to do the splits for her next New Year's Eve party. After a glance at her chaotic house, however, Lisick realized that perhaps she might set her resolution bar a wee bit higher--perhaps organize the basement, exercise or even pay some bills on time. Who better to assist her in reaching these goals, she thought, than the self-help experts? Vowing to keep her mind open, Lisick formed a plan: for each month of the coming year, she'd choose one expert to help her help herself in a specific area of need. The resulting journey, chronicled here, is by turns fulfilling, frustrating, expensive and exhausting for Lisick, but consistently engaging and often hilarious for her readers.
 
Part of the fun is that Lisick is never truly able to chuck her skepticism while she chugs the Kool-Aid. From her reflection that one of Steven Covey's most "effective" principles may be his ability to command a $699 lecture ticket price to her realization that John Gray's seminar is mostly a live infomercial, Lisick's sharp observations bite through the fluff of self-help-speak to get to the core messages. Once there, she does find something of value in almost every venture and in a couple of cases, is actually surprised by the results.
 
In one of the book's funniest chapters, for example, she takes a Richard Simmons "Cruise to Lose" and finds herself utterly charmed by the butt-flashing, round-haired diet guru who manages to lavish personal attention on each guest. Later, when she runs into a behavioral roadblock with her young son, an expert's book on discipline (which she'd picked up at an earlier self-help conference) works so well she passes it along to her sister-in-law. Not everything is this magical, of course. While she appreciates finance-guru Suze Orman's basic philosophy, Lisick finds its practical application challenging for someone who is not already wealthy. And despite a Herculean effort to believe, she is repelled by John Gray's reductive--and sexist--approach to relationships.
 
While she does grow weary of constant affirmations, self-analysis and golf metaphors (every self-help expert seems to have them), Lisick comes to some decidedly un-cynical conclusions about the power of positive thinking as the year draws to a close. Witty, warm, but never mawkish, these final insights are the perfect ending to a very entertaining read.--Debra Ginsberg

 

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